Murray Church Notes

January 31, 2019

Volume 7,  Issue 25

In this Issue:

Come Join a Listening Circle
And Let’s Dream Together!

Rev. Gretchen Weis

Murray Church has been a vital, healthy beloved community for generations.  As an independent, self-governing church, Murray is a faith community built by you, for you and for those who will come after.  Each of you has a vital voice in shaping the direction and priorities of this beloved community of love and justice, together.

As we continue to attract new families with children in our growing RE program, it seemed like a good time for us to pause, and to hold a series of Listening Circles to gather people’s thoughts about who we are now, what resources and experiences nourish and strengthen us in beloved community, and what possibilities we wish to see for Murray going forward.

What priorities, possible new programs and activities do you dream for our church?  How has the church nourished and inspired you? Challenged you?  Supported you? Called you to be our best, highest self and to live your values out loud in the world?

It’s been about 10 years since the church did this kind of creative visioning together.   Read More  
"Why is it so Hard for White People to Talk about Racism?" 
Robin DiAngelo was a diversity trainer for years.  In her work, she began to notice consistent behaviors coming from white people when asked to talk about racism, including angry pushback, denial or stony silence that served to shut meaningful cross-cultural dialogue down cold.  Why does this happen?  And what might white folks do to become more effective allies in the fight against racism?   Insights will be shared from DiAngelo’s book, White Fragility.  All are invited to a discussion afterwards in the Unity Room.        
"Reuniting With Awe"   
How might our day, our interactions with others, and our work in the world be different if we start with awe and wonder? Together, we'll explore the practice of radical amazement as a way to make it through even the toughest times.

Rev. Joanna Lubkin is the Unitarian Universalist Chaplain at Wellesley College,the Program Assistant for the UU Ministers Association, and is an affiliated community minister at Arlington Street Church in Boston. She studied at Hebrew College Rabbinical School before finishing her Masters of Divinity at Andover Newton Theological School. Joanna sings in the Arlington Street Church choir and at The Sanctuary Boston.
Religious Education for Sunday, February 3

Nursery is available 9:45 - 11 am.  Nursery is for our babies, toddlers and preschoolers only.
We will begin in the service and then head to the Unity Room for Spirit Group.  We will learn about  different types of meditation that can help us to feel good and be relaxing.  Please have your child wear loose clothing for comfort.
Youth Group:
This is your day to enjoy the service!
Religious Education is in need of lids!  
•    Plastic lids from Cool Whip containers and/or large yogurt containers 
•    Empty spray bottles 
•    Please make sure these items are thoroughly cleaned.  The items can be dropped off in Kavita’s office. 
Feb 1:

Memorial Service and Collation
for Ramona Adler

Charlie Adler's mom, Ramona Adler, age 97, passed away on January 17.  A memorial service will be held in our sanctuary on Friday, February 1, at 2:00 pm.  Charlie and Barbara would welcome anyone in the Murray congregation who would like to join them and their family.  A catered reception will follow the service.  In an effort to reduce disposables, Murray china and silverware will be used.  If you can help set up or clean up, please let Roy Belcher know.
Feb. 3:

Murray Church-Wide Read Discussion

You are welcome to join us  (all ages, all races)
This Sunday, February 3, 11:30 am - 12:30 pm
in the Unity Room

A Post-Service Conversation on
“White Fragility: 
Why It’s So Hard for White People
to Talk About Racism”

Please come, whether you have read the book or not


We will discuss:
  • the role that race plays in the lives of black and white people
  • what White Fragility is, and the reflex of all white people to exercise it
  • how Unitarian Universalism guides us to face racism
  • how we can start to challenge racism and White Fragility in ourselves and in our society
 We welcome the opportunity to join together in love and respect for each other, in this journey of faith.  It may not be easy, but we believe it will be rewarding.                      
~ The Murray Black Lives Matter Committee
Feb 3: 11:15 am-12:00 pm.

Stay & Play

Calling all families for playgroup!  Join us in the Nursery and K-2 classroom after coffee for playtime and conversation.  Games and a craft will be provided in the K-2 room while younger children may play in the nursery.  At least one parent must remain with children.
Some of our youth attended a high school CON(ference)  at the UU church in Rockland, MA and had a great time!

Year End and Quarterly Giving Statements Have Been Sent

Check your e-mail!  2018 Year End Giving Statements and 2018-19 2nd Quarter Giving Statements have been e-mailed. For those who do not have e-mail, hard copy statements are being mailed this week. If you have any questions about your statement, please contact Office Administrator Jeanne Chapman.

Thank You MLK Day Service Volunteers!

Thanks go out to the many church members who volunteered, cooked for and hosted the Martin Luther King Day memorial service and reception!  

NEW DATE! Feb. 9:
From Green Sanctuary, Dinner and Movie night: 
An Inconvenient Sequel: Truth to Power
Saturday, Feb. 9th, 6:00 pm, Unity Room

As more urgent scientific reports are coming out on climate change and as our political process often seems stymied, what can we to do? 

How can we remain hopeful in the face of such a scarey future? 

What can we do when so much seems out of our control? 

We have answers. Join Us.

Potluck--vegetarian dishes encouraged 

Please bring your own plates and utensils.
Starts Feb. 10:

Listening Circles – Come Explore the Possibilities

Some of you, at least those of you who were part of Murray in 2008 – 2009, might remember that during those two years, we did many Appreciative Inquiry Workshops – Creating the Murray Future: Imagining the Possibilities.  If you were here in ‘08-’09 you might also remember that those workshops resulted in a vision for the future that included a Bylaws change to establish the Social Action Committee. We also developed better media coverage resulting in a much improved, very professional web page; many had concerns about ensuring strong institutional fiscal stability and planning for when Markman would leave.  We also recognized the pressing need to value the contributions of staff, both verbally and financially, resulting in use of UUA guidelines to compensate all of our staff.   You get the picture, or hopefully you remember – those workshops resulted in building on the wonderful things that were already happening at Murray and adding new hopes and ideas to them.
Now, ten years later, the board, the Finance Chair, the minister, were thinking that it might be time to once again do some Appreciative Inquiry type workshops – we’re calling them Listening Circles this time – in an effort to look at how we want to grow, what we need to build on that is working great, what our vision for the future is, etc. As some of you know, I am a trained Appreciative Inquiry Facilitator and I volunteered to help us look again at this model – not necessarily the exact same model – and see if we could hold a few workshops – Listening Circles – in February 2019.  Our plan is to once again look at Murray’s assets, capabilities, resources, and strengths that are just sitting there waiting to be affirmed, stretched, encouraged by the loving, giving members and friends of this awesome faith community.  For example, how do we build on the energy and excitement of hanging our Black Lives Matter: Join the Conversation banner, and what do we want those conversations with the community to look like?  RE is growing in leaps and bounds; what else should we be doing? Green Sanctuary, how do we continue to fight against climate and environmental injustices? I have my ideas, I’m sure you have your own.

Sunday, February 10th                    11:30 AM                           
Monday, February 11th                    10:00 AM
Saturday, February 16th                  10:00 AM                           
Tuesday, February 19th                   2:00 PM  and 7:00 PM
You can email Janet Richardi to register and she will have sign-up sheets at coffee hour on February 3, 2019.

So what is Appreciative Inquiry?      


Feb. 10:

Soup Sale

In honor of Valentines Day and Chinese New Year (Pig), our theme will be soups that we love to make or that we make for those we love! And any soups that we are "hog wild" about!  Please contact Peg Dixon or Laurie Lawes if you would like to prepare soup for our community!
Feb. 22:

Blood Drive

Community Blood Drive

Murray Unitarian Universalist Church
505 North Main Street
Attleboro, Ma 02703

Friday, February 22, 2019
1:00 pm – 6:00 pm 

For an appointment, please visit
Or call 1-800-RED CROSS (1-800-733-2767).

NEW DATE! Feb 24:

Mid-Year Congregational Meeting 

Following Worship

There will be a mid-year informational meeting for all members of Murray Unitarian Universalist Church on Sunday, February 24, 2019 at 11:30 a.m. in FELLOWSHIP HALL. A light lunch and childcare will be provided.

Topics to be discussed:
-    Mid-year financial report as of Dec. 31st and potential outlook for the remainder of the fiscal year,  including deficit management 
-    Proposed by-law changes that are under consideration and may be voted on at another special meeting prior to the annual meeting in May.

Volunteer for Coffee Hour...

If you like coffee, yummy snacks or just enjoy meeting new people, please consider volunteering for coffee hour. To sign-up, please click  here or write your name down on the clipboard at the table where coffee is served.
If you are new or if you need a refresher, step-by-step instructions and friendly hands-on training and/or buddies are all available. Goodies may be bought or baked. 
It's easy! It doesn't require a lot of extra time (show up between 9:15 and 9:30 am to get the coffee going,  and setup/clean up takes about half an hour).  We really need volunteers! Let's keep Murray members and friends caffeinated and in the happy zone.
Questions?  Contact Monica Weil or Barbara Clark.                                         

Help the Food Pantry Go Green! 

We need re-usable cloth grocery bags!

Other items also needed:
  • Feminine care products
  • Personal care items (deodorant, shampoo soap, etc)
Newsletter weekly schedule!
Please e-mail all newsletter submissions by Tuesday end of day for inclusion in the following Thursday's Murray Notes. The next deadline is Tuesday, February 5th.  Please include 'NEWSLETTER' in the subject line.
If the weather outside is frightful, the minister and board president will confer to determine if worship services must be cancelled by 6:30 am on a Sunday morning. WBZ-TV, WCVB-TV5, FOX25 and WPRI-12, FOX Providence will air any Sunday Service cancellations during the morning news.

Websites for cancellations:,,
Cancellations will also be posted on our website and Facebook page: 
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